Today's Post is regarding the online dating scene. According to "The Wall Street Journal" over 2 million people have gotten married off the online dating services. The bad news or the con is over 4 million have gotten divorced, because of someone they met online.
One person surveyed said I would never cheat on my wife. Not because so much that I love her. But because I love the home I have worked so hard for. I respect my home to much to just give it to my wife, over sex with a one night stand.
We all have looked online, either by chat rooms, or those dating services. Heck 8 of 10 men said they have viewed porn sites on the net. Looking at porn and doing the deed are another thing thou. We all have fantasies, or I hope anyway. It is determined that after years of constant relationship with that someone special, that things seem to get predictable, or even just old, and dead at worst.
So what do men and women do when the relationship is not what It used to be? Either look online, and see the options, or just plan out commit the one night stand. Most people who have cheated on a spouse or a close relationship did so either with a fellow co-worker, or the hottie they met at the bar, or club. With internet advancing every aspect of our lives, its hard to see that we pay a monthly charge for this, in which leads to betrayal of a relationship. For most they say I will only do it one time, but then again, what if they enjoyed it? Some cheat and never get physically busted, then some just lie to themself and only fool themself in the end.
Men if you are the man income source, and have a nice home, and a child or two, you may want to re-think your options. Look at it this way people. Is that hottie worth your home, paying child support, and loss of respect you had? NO! I myself have been married, and now divorced, now I did not get divorced due to online cheating, or sex with another person. I got divorced because we the wife and I argued more than we were making love, so it ended. Now yes when married I looked, all the time, and even thought it out a time or two. I have been tempted myself, with all the good looking women out there, its hard to be contained, if you are miserable in your everyday relationship. We seek something new, fun, and exciting, its human nature. So instead of screwing up your life, your kids, and your spouse, just talk to one another. If you or them is bored, talk about how to make it fun again. After all you are life long partners, you better find a way to deal with them for life. Either sexually, mentally, or emotionally we all have a period of time, when we are not happy with one aspect or another of our life.
If you are unhappy with all three categories of your relationship, then do the honest thing and divorce, before you commit the sin! In some situations both partners have the same concerns or gaps. If both of you agree the sex life isn't what it should be, consider a therapist, or even agree to attend sessions were you both agree to have sex with other partners, only if both of you can handle this. Of course, make sure all partners are clean and tested. Maybe this will solve the problem, then again either of you may like it to much, and divorce anyway, but at least you BOTH tried.
Open relationship are bad for most, and the norm for others. If you wish for pure one night stands do it in a manner you can't get caught. Go out of town, use a fake name, make sure this fling does not really know you or the spouse. Wear a freaking condom boys, crap happens even to a stud like you, trust me on this one! Never mess with a coworker, or the friends you both know, this is trouble right off, ever heard of blackmail? Never give out your cell number, they have records, also create a email on a account the other person in the relationship does not know. Always and I mean always clear out the history on your computer. Clean out those bad emails in you inbox, that is proof in black and white. Use good common sense people!
For the record I don't condone or recommend anyone to cheat. I am only saying 10, 20, 30 years with the same person can and most for sure will get boring or out of date, at some point. Try talking out your concerns, then if that doesn't work divorce, or cheat in a way you don't get caught. This applies to men and women alike, not just the men, who are usually the one accused. Remember relationships take 2 people to work, usually adding more people into the mix will only worsen things. Like I said earlier thou, crap happens to us all, life is a mere test of you wits. Have a great day America, and keep your pants up, unless you have no choice.
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